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5 INTERESTING INDIAN WEDDING TRADITIONS

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An Indian wedding cannot be defined by just one set of rituals or one vision. Indian wedding traditions and customs are diverse. Every different state has a different set of traditions and culture. The true secularity of India reflects through the various kinds of Indian weddings we observe throughout the years, over generations.

Indian weddings can be simple, humble, and peacefully quiet. They can be a big fat pompous show of colours and riches. If we are to observe the various Indian wedding traditions, it is bound to get confusing. Subtle differences mark one custom from another, while some other traditions are totally different from the rest.

Foreigners take a deep interest in the traditional Indian wedding. But surprisingly enough, some of us Indians ourselves are not aware of the various types of Indian weddings. As the traditions are flexing to accommodate each other, with interstate and inter traditional marriages becoming the norm, we need to know about the various Indian wedding customs that exist.

Some Indian wedding customs have stayed put from ages back while some have been incorporated from Western weddings, only recently. Despite the communal issues that surface due to politics, the Indian people are mostly very curious about different traditions and they like to pick up some customs from each other. This is why the Indian weddings have elaborate rituals that include the archaic traditions that are carried forward from forefather’s unknown, as well as new ones that are appreciated by many because of the thought that goes into them.

Here are some Indian wedding customs that are popular in their own regions and are slowly gaining popularity in other parts of the country.

  1. Bengali Wedding Traditions

Bengalis are progressive and Bengali girls and boys are quite a catch, to generalise of course. But the Bengali wedding traditions are still pretty old ones. They reflect the orthodox marriages of some generations past. For example, there is the ‘shubha drishti’, meaning something like the ‘holy meet’.

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The Bengali bride enters hiding her face with betel leaves. The ‘saat paak’ in Bengali weddings don’t have the bride and groom encircling the agnee but the bride encircling the groom seven times. She has her face hidden through the seven circles. She is carried by four of her closest male family members or friends. At the end of the seven rounds, she steps down and stands in front of the groom, revealing her face so that the bride and the groom’s eyes can meet. This is ‘shubho drishti’.

Although every Bengali bride and groom knows each other before marriage, and most have been friends or in a relationship for quite a while, the tradition has stuck from times when this ‘shubho drishti’ was literally the first time the bride and the groom met each other in person. Strange it is. But this tradition sets the Bengali wedding apart from every other type of Indian wedding. The Bengali bride putting the betel leaves down and slowly looking up is the symbol of a typical Bengali wedding.

  1. Punjabi and Sikh Weddings

Punjabis and Sikhs are the most generous and enthusiastic Indians. Many people consider Punjabis and Sikhs to be the same people because the similar customs they follow and the area they live in. But there are subtle differences between Punjabis and Sikhs. Their traditions are similar, yet not the same. To generalise, they are both impulsive, fun loving, and warm hearted. So you can imagine what a Punjabi or Sikh wedding would be like, full of colours, lots of food, and a lot of dancing with innovative ideas for sangeet ceremony. But let’s take a look into the ceremonies and wedding rituals as well.

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Punjabi wedding rituals begin with the bride’s maternal uncle gifting her the ominous churha. These are red and white bangles that signify the beginning of a wedding and mark the marital status of a woman, as married women wear them after the wedding as well. The Ghara Ghardoli ceremony follows. The bride and the groom are bathed in the holy water at the Gurudwara. All this takes place during the day because the garland exchange and final wedding rituals take place late in the evening.

Punjabi and Sikh weddings are long and stretch into the night. Sikh weddings happen during the day with the ardaas at the Gurudwara. The Punjabi wedding with the mantras and phere itself happens late at night, after the dinner. But there is not a tired soul, not a pair of droopy eyes. The enthusiasm of Punjabis and Sikhs are contagious. If you lack drive in your life, attend a Punjabi or Sikh wedding, or just visit a Sikh family. They are loving, and full of energy. Even if you are the quiet type, their energy is bound to rub off on you.

Some rituals of Punjabi and Sikh weddings are becoming popular in other types of Indian weddings too. Mehendi is already popular and as new event now a days Mehendi party are gracefully organized and has become quite the part of all Indian weddings, even the ones where it wasn’t traditionally a part. Roka, Varmala, Milni, are all originally Punjabi and Sikh wedding rituals.

  1. Gujarati Wedding Traditions

Gujratis are fun loving too. More than anything else, they are extravagant when it comes to any big ceremony. The Gujratis are the only ones whose enthusiasm come any close to that of Punjabis and Sikhs. They have this loud energy for weddings. There is a grandeur in Gujrati weddings because no matter how calculative they are about money in general when it comes to weddings, they splurge like it’s nobody’s business.

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Gujarati weddings are versatile in itself because there are many sub sects with a different set of rituals. Patels have a different set of rituals. The Naagars have some Brahmin rituals. Overall, a Gujarati wedding can be distinguished from other Indian weddings because there are some typical differences. A Gujarati mangal phera comprises just four phere instead of the usual seven in most other Indian wedding traditions. These four phere signify ‘Dharma’, ‘Artha’, ‘Kama’, and ‘Moksha’, the four pillars of a successful marriage according to Gujarati culture and belief. The Jaimaala in a Gujarati wedding is exchanged twice, instead of the usual just one time, or three times.

Some Gujarati weddings have the kanku kanya ritual. The bride is accepted with the vermillion being the only sign of marriage on her. She comes without any dowry, just as she is. This progressive ritual is typical to Naagar Brahmin Gujarati weddings. Gujratis are businesspeople and many marriages have their roots in business partnerships. But when it comes to the bride, she is given utmost importance, over any money or dowry. Or at least, so is the ritual.

  1. Tamil Weddings Traditions

Tamil weddings are the most elaborate. Yes, without a doubt, Tamil wedding rituals are the most elaborate. Some rituals are short while some are long but they are all essential. Even the modern Tamil weddings don’t skip any of the important rituals. They start with Panda Kaal Muhurtham and sumangali poojas to bless the wedding day and the married women at the wedding.

These rituals are followed by pallikai thellichal and naandi shrardham rituals. After all this, comes the engagement or Nichayathartham. A Ganesh pooja is mandatory at the beginning of the engagement. Then comes kumkum, chandan, and garlands, followed by the ring exchange .

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Lagna pathirikai, mangala snaanam, Gauri pooja, Kashi yatra, pada pooja, and Oonjal follow. Then comes kanyadaan, muhurtham, and saptapadi to complete the wedding. The wedding itself is followed by three rituals, sammandhi maryathai, grihapravesh, and valeyadal. Tamil weddings seem to go on forever creating memories and exciting wedding stories. It brings out the seriousness Indian traditions are dealt with even in modern weddings.

  1. Maharashtrian Wedding Traditions

Maharashtrian weddings have elaborate rituals starting with the engagement. It is called ‘shakhar puda’. The bride is given a saree and some sweets as blessings from her new family to be. Kelvan and Haldi ceremonies take place at the bride’s home as well as at the groom’s home.

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On the wedding day, the couple has a barrier of a silk shawl between them and the ‘mangalashtak’ is recited. There are quite a few rituals before tying the knot, one of the rituals being the bride and groom officially asking for their parents’ permission to do so. After this, the phere and the whole wedding process takes place. It all happens during the day.

After the wedding, it is time for Grihapravesh, which is typical to many Indian weddings. But in a Maharashtrian wedding, the bride and groom’s feet are washed with milk before they enter the bride’s new home. Maharashtrian wedding rituals are elaborate but the food and celebrations aren’t ignored. The food and hospitality the guests receive are bountiful.

These are some of the richest Indian wedding traditions as well as the commonest. They are versatile and elaborate, fun and serious. An Indian wedding has it all.

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What to Do When You are Being Investigated by the Register of Contractors

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When working in the construction industry in Arizona, you should be familiar with the Arizona Registrar of Contractors, also known as the ROC. The ROC is responsible for investigating alleged construction violations across the state of Arizona. In fact, the ROC receives thousands of complaints each year. Any company investigated could be in jeopardy of losing their construction license.

 

What are Some Examples of ROC Disputes

An investigation by the ROC starts with the ROC receiving a complaint from a consumer. The ROC must then investigate the complaint, which could result in the revocation or suspension of your construction license. Any complaint brought against you will be brought to your attention. And when it does, always take it seriously and understand that your reputation is on the line. ROC disputes should never be taken on without the guidance of an experienced lawyer. The right lawyer will help protect your business during these disputes and will even look at the chance of settling any disputes outside of timely and costly court.

 

Common ROC disputes include terms not being met in contracts, finished projects not being up to standards, work was uncomplete, didn’t pay for supplies, violation of building codes, and lack of safety laws. There are many reasons for a complaint and in fact, almost anything can be brought to the ROC as a complaint. Your business needs to prove otherwise during a ROC dispute to protect your license and this can be done with the help of a lawyer.

 

Seeking Legal Advice and Representation

If you are presented with an investigation by the ROC, contact a construction law lawyer for advice to help you through the strenuous process. It is always beneficial to work with a lawyer during construction disputes, especially during ROC construction disputes. Lawyers with construction law experience know how to communicate with the ROC and handle disputes on your behalf, to alleviate stress. Your legal team will work aggressively to provide the correct documentation and offer any advice needed during the dispute. They will deal with the issue head on and won’t drag this out, saving you time and money. And since they are familiar with all of the Arizona construction laws, you know you will be in good hands.

 

It is crucial that your construction license has a good standing with the ROC and a construction law lawyer will help protect your business with the proper legal representation. They have the experience and knowledge to handle these cases where you could potentially face license suspension or revocation.

 

You never want to take on the ROC alone or address them without the proper legal representation. When the ROC receives a complaint from a consumer, the investigation starts. Example of common complaints received includes terms not being met in contracts, finished projects not being up to standards, uncompleted work, missed payment for supplies, violation of building codes, and lack of safety laws. There are many reasons for a complaint and in fact, almost anything can be brought to the ROC as a complaint.

 

A lawyer can help you during these investigations and can even try to settle outside of court, which can be timely and costly. Lawyers with construction law experience know how to communicate with the ROC and handle disputes on your behalf, to alleviate stress. Your legal team will work aggressively to provide the correct documentation and offer any advice needed during the dispute. They will deal with the issue head on and won’t drag this out, saving you time and money.

 

The team at MC Law knows all about Phoenix construction law and are experienced handling a number of difference construction disputes including ROC disputes. The attorneys at MC Law are skilled to review all documents and details surrounding a ROC dispute and will be able to provide you with the legal guidance and representation you need.  

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Being Homosexual; A Bliss or A Crime?

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In the modern era, teenage or young adults hesitate to share their feelings with their elders, parents or guardians. They seem to forget the fact that talking helps them in taking the correct decisions for themselves. But in the recent years, behavioral patterns, lifestyle and thoughts have changed for everyone.

The bold topic of being a homosexual irrespective of being a male or female have been shocking and doing rounds of controversy among all.

Feelings whether homosexual or heterosexual are no crime and a particular law is passed for it being legal for all.

Discovering the feelings

One such incident is stated by a teenage youngster on how he discovered his feelings for his other male friend.

On one fine day of group studies, both sat till late studying for their grades. Both were best friends and hence parents didn’t doubt them an inch. They were in their room when one started passionately kissing the other and it triggered further intimacy. They lay in the room like love similes with happiness in their minds and bodies.

This happened a couple of times more. Mostly in the absence of their parents.

But when it came to speaking to their parents about it, none of them had the guts for it. They mainly feared upon how their parents would react.

Short lived feelings or permanent love?

Things changed after that week. One of the partners went to live in a different locality which hindered the time spent between both of them. Then it such happened that one of them got to drive their father’s truck to school. The other had a cycle.

Once the cycle had been forgotten and the boy was homebound. He got a lift from his partner. But both of them in the happiness of having time together went to an old construction site for having some privacy.

They both got intimate in the luck of roaring camp. The truck engine kept roaring as the ignition had not been turned off. They did not realize until it was dark and each one’s mom had been calling on their phones. They were scared that if someone would come to know, it would be a shame for their families.

Justification by law

Homosexuality as stated by law is absolutely legal and is no criminal offense. It is a bliss to be a with your love partner. But the sad part of this story is that, only few people tend to understand such things.

Some quotations are helpful in expressing such feelings to others especially bartlett’s quotations. These encourage homosexual relationships and love and indicate that they are no crime and sin in doing so. It is a form of love. And any such love which is pure, is not criminal nor offensive. It is just different and it needs time to be understood by others.

Today, there are many such relationships which fear to get exposed in front of others. The root of the fear is criticism. Sometimes it is also being sexually bullied or abused that people do not express these things in public. Such sensitive cases need a stronger back up and support for facing the public and gaining dignity. The most hurtful part is that people how sympathy in such cases.

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